Men often pride themselves on being able to solve problems effectively. However, sometimes they need help to deal with their own issues related to emotional issues.
“Many men have difficulty managing their feelings and expressing them, so they need help finding solutions to their problems,” says Dr. Stephanie Collier, director of education in the division of geriatric psychiatry at Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital.
This is where confiding in a professional therapist can help. “Sometimes talking about a problem with a friend or family member is helpful, but other times it’s better to talk with someone outside of your circle, so you can feel more relaxed and open to the idea of sharing without fear of feeling judged,” says Dr. Collier.
When you need help
Depression and anxiety are the most common reasons men seek professional help. Such feelings often arise from bereavement, such as the death of a spouse, friend, or family member. Other situations that can trigger similar reactions include health problems, financial anxiety, or loss of independence (such as no longer being able to drive).
In addition to the characteristic symptoms of prolonged sadness and low energy, men with depression may engage in self-destructive behaviors, such as abusing alcohol or opioids. They may experience changes in their social lives, such as deteriorated relationships or withdrawal from favorite activities. Anxiety can also cause irritability, insomnia, and problems with memory and concentration.
“Although men may recognize these changes, they may not know the root causes or, if they do, what they can do about them,” says Dr. Collier. “A therapist can work with you to identify the source of your problems and then develop a strategy to resolve them.”
Questions to Ask a Potential TherapistA good relationship with a therapist who matches your specific needs is essential for a successful relationship. Here are some questions to ask if you are considering working with a therapist:
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How to find a therapist
The first step is to talk to your doctor about your situation, feelings and symptoms. “They should be able to refer you to a therapist who can help you with your specific issues,” says Dr. Collier. “Online sources are also available.” Many types of professionals offer therapy (in person and virtually). They have different approaches based on their training, education, and areas of experience. For example:
Psychiatrist. A psychiatrist is a doctor with a medical degree who can prescribe medications and help with conditions that often require medication, such as depression and bipolar disorder.
Psychologist. This professional holds a doctorate. or a Psy.D. in clinical psychology. In most states, psychologists cannot prescribe medications. They assess and treat a range of emotional and psychological problems, such as depression, anxiety and substance abuse.
Advise. A counselor focuses on everyday life issues, such as stress and anxiety, relationship conflicts, and mild depression. A Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) has completed an accredited graduate program and 2,000 hours of supervised psychotherapy experience.
Social worker. Similar to a professional counselor in terms of education and training, many social workers focus on mental health issues, treat substance abuse, connect clients with resources, and help refer them to treatment. other professionals, if necessary. Depending on the state, they may have other credentials such as LCSW (licensed clinical social worker), LICSW (licensed independent clinical social worker), and LSW (licensed social worker).
Weekly visits are standard at first; depending on your answer, you can go there more or less often. “Once you have completed your first few sessions and found them to be successful, you can return for periodic check-ups,” says Dr. Collier. “But if you’re doing well, you may not need long-term therapy.”
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